navigating big changes together
Are you and your partner frequently arguing or experiencing breakdowns in communication?
Do you see your significant other more as an opponent rather than a teammate, friend, and lover?
Are repetitive arguments making you doubt the future of your relationship?
The good news is that your relationship holds the key to the deep love, acceptance, and safety that every human being wants and needs. You are capable of resolving conflicts. You are capable of disagreeing peacefully. It is possible to learn to communicate with your partner in a way that is honest and heart-felt and which will enable you both to get more of what you want. You can replace the stressful negative patterns that are plaguing your relationship with understanding, love and support.
Relationships are often a negotiation process. And there is a big difference between listening to understand and listening to respond. By learning to make requests instead of demands, building your capacity to listen deeply without defensiveness, and practicing communicating your own experience rather than focusing on your partner’s behaviors, negotiations will become calmer and more intentional.
Taking a systematic approach, I can help infuse mindful attention, skill building, attunement and effective communication strategies right in our very first session together. Leading to the lasting change that you both seek.
Other decisions might be fraught with anger, impatience or denial. You have been contemplating divorce for some time, but are unable to feel confident or capable of going through with it or telling your partner.
Perhaps you and your partner are at a stalemate regarding whether or not to have another baby. Your discussions keep going in circles and time is ticking.
Couples counseling is the right place to take these concerns. Skillfull, judgment-free therapy will help you both to clarify your needs, communicate them clearly, listen deeply to your partner, and move forward into your next phase of life. Couples counseling provides strategic support with someone who can guide you though this process. Your relationship- your life- is on the other side!
Time, stress, the long list of adult responsibilities can make it near impossible to sustain a deep sense of connection to yourself, let alone with your partner.
Who's turn is it to do the dishes? Cook dinner? Take care of the laundry? Take the kids to school? What time is that meeting? You forgot to put gas in the car!
When we get inundated by the mundane, busy-ness of life it can leave you drained, uninterested and disconnected.
You love each other, and yet it feels like you've got more of a roommate than a lover. More of a business partner than a marriage one. And you haven't had really good sex in... how long has it been?
Couples counseling to reconnect with your partner is the ultimate gateway to that fulfilling relationship you started with. Imagine how nice it would be to slow down and schedule uninterrupted time to reestablish the sacred bond that brought you together in the first place. Each of you has a different way of feeling loved, and you can re-learn how to respond to each other’s needs and create a relationship filled with passion and excitement again.
I'm excited to help you reignite that passion and purpose with strengths-based, inclusive couples counseling.
re-connecting with the one you love
Any intimate relationship will go through several changes over the course of time. Big life decisions will need to be made regarding finances, having children, whether to marry or not, changes in employment or schooling, roles and expectations, where you live and so forth.
Some of these changes might be joyful celebrations. And even still, happy changes can be accompanied by anxiety, high expectations and fears of disappointment.
For example, are you ready to get married? Congratulations! What an exciting time to plan for a long, happy future! Pre-marital counseling is a great opportunity to get ahead of any issues, so that you can walk into your new marriage with clarity, confidence and connection.
communicating openly & effectively
You've suddenly found out about an affair and your world is upside down.
The days that follow are a complete blur- moving through the motions of life, work, and parenting while emotional devastation brews inside you.
Though everyone experiences infidelity differently, it is not uncommon for it to completely consume your every thought. If you were the one who found out about the affair, you may be obsessed with every detail, trying to search for clarity or clues about how this could have happened. Or you may be the one who cheated. You've been caught in a web of deception and have grown accustomed to the lies you've been telling in order to protect your partner.
You probably both wish you could go back to a time before the affair so that you could address early warning signs or stop yourself from cheating. And while affair recovery can be a painful process that takes commitment and work, healing after infidelity is possible in counseling.
We don't have a lot of good ways of addressing the complexities of affairs in our culture or with close friends. Therefore, it can be difficult for true understanding to flourish. Experienced couples counseling can offer the kind of guidance and stability that allows for affair recovery to happen.
Confronting infidelity is deeply painful and emotionally draining. Therapy provides a private and supportive environment where you and your partner can safely explore, process, and work toward reconciliation. My job is to help create an environment where truths can be held with respect, and a new future can be rebuilt one step at a time.
surviving betrayal
- You or your partner have had an affair.
- You are fighting more often than usual.
- You are considering a big relational change, such as marriage, divorce, or having kids.
- You feel disconnected or unsatisfied with your partner.
Every couple deals with big life decisions and circumstances that can leave you feeling frustrated, fed up, intimidated or just plain stuck. What I offer you and your partner is a private space to navigate these challenges and chart a new path forward.
