Part of what happens in couples therapy is the discovery of hidden patterns, themes, biases, and unmet needs that get expressed through relational interactions. These can be uncovered in a variety of ways, and one of those ways is through fighting.

If you find yourself having the same types of disagreements with your partner (even over seemingly small irritations) you might want to start digging a little deeper.

Esther Perel, psychotherapist and best-selling author, outlines 3 of the common ‘hidden dimensions’ as she calls them of arguments and uncovers the deeper meaning at play.

Have a read and see what you and your partner might want to dig into with your therapist next!

Leanna Immel, LMFT, enjoys working with couples who want to take an interest in the deeper levels of their relationship. Sometimes due to a major upset (infidelity or grief, for example) or sometimes due to years of just getting by, couples find themselves stuck, upset, or lonely, and seeking clarity & connection. If you’re ready to dive into the choppy waters of relationship counseling, and find some relief, reach out today.