Drs. John and Julie Gottman, pioneers of couples therapy for the past many decades utilize the metaphor of The Four Horsemen to discuss 4 communication patterns that couples often get stuck in, and that can predict the end of a relationship. They are: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. These conflict-inducing patterns can pose a serious […]

A very silly and wise illustrator Wendy McNaughton has introduced me to creative visual practices that, though simple, can have a deep resonance. Recently she did a mini lesson on spirals- the ancient symbol that humans have been drawing for millennia. The artist Lynda Barry has a short 3 minute guided YouTube video that is […]

I’m really lucky to have met Valerie Moselle just about 10 years ago. She quickly became a mentor of mine (and eventually I got to call her a friend). Among many things she is an author, yoga teacher, and meditator. She has many online resources; this one I am sharing here is her River Meditation. […]

The bad news is that you are fighting. The good news is that it probably doesn’t mean what you think it does. And because of that, it means change is possible. Renowned relationship guru, Esther Perel breaks it down for you, identifying 3 common themes most couples fight about.

The death of a loved one is often experienced and expressed very differently for teens and youth than for adults. Adolescence is already such a tumultuous and potent time of life, and grief can show up in some unexpected ways. There are particularities about grief in teens that can be helpful for caregivers and loved ones to know.